How are you? Wait… let me just walk past before you even have a chance to reply. How are you? Oh… now someone walks by before I GET TO REPLY. Has either of the above scenarios ever happened to you? I assume yes, unless of course, you live in complete isolation, and, in that case, this blog will not be relatable. However, for those of you still tuned in… welcome to the world of hurry! And that last comment was as genuine as you will take it! (As in, it can be haha sarcasm…or that’s funny I relate thanks.) It is not a surprise or shock that we live in an ever-changing and always-moving society. In the hustle and bustle of life, genuineness and intentionality in relationships with others, tend to suffer. It is my hope that after reading the following tips you will be well on your way to building intentional relationships with those around you.
5 Tips on Being Intentional:
- Schedule a meeting
No, like literally pull out your planner or calendar app and add the appointment. Make sure to actually hash out the when and where as early as possible. You and the person should both put whatever you decide upon in your agendas so that the level of priority is established. Furthermore, this allows you not only to remember, but to have peace, that you have the time set aside to really catch up. If you really want to have fun with scheduling, you could have a color-coded system to indicate who exactly you are meeting.
- Put the electronic device away
Technology is the killer of intentionality. Let me clarify: if you are so distracted by every beep and buzz, how much attention are you really paying to the person you set aside time to meet with? Believe it or not, the world will not collapse into oblivion if you go deviceless for an extended period. Also, by putting away a device you will be nonverbally communicating that the person you are meeting has value to you. Besides, even if the person says they don’t mind your constant checking of your phone, they will notice.
- Don’t overcommit
When you set up a time to meet, do not try to rush to something immediately after. The goal is to be fully intentional, not just check in a box that you met. If you plan to show up antsy to make your next commitment, then chances are you should not have set the meeting in the first place. Only you know your schedule, so respect yourself and the other person enough to be mindful of prior commitments.
Intentional relationships are ones to treasure and should not be defeated by the busyness of the world.
- Find a shared passion
People typically prioritize the things they have a passion for, so why not find a shared passion in order to increase priority? It would also provide an enjoyable activity to look forward to when hanging out and increasing the likelihood of future hangouts.
- Continue to check-up
After taking the time to be intentional once, don’t stop. Stay intentional and check-up on the person. Now, how often you need to catch-up is entirely up to you, but once you make the effort, keep on going.