Silly Love Songs

“Some people want to fill the world with silly love songs. And what’s wrong with that? I’d like to know” (McCartney, verse 1). Valentine’s Day is my favorite holiday. It represents something beautiful: love. Love seems difficult to define and to obtain. Sometimes it acts like an emotion, while other times it’s a choice or even a fated destiny. Love can even take different forms linguistically, being defined as either a verb or a noun. Personally, I think that love can have different meanings to different people at different times. In fact, one of the attributes of love I am fondest of is this sort of graceful, catch-all nature it seems to have.

Valentine’s Day has come to be known especially for its representation of romantic love. I’ve always thought that a romantic kind of love was magical. Once upon a time, I was a little girl swooning over Disney princesses as they danced with their princes. Now, I’m an adult with a heart that bursts with excitement as I watch the people around me fall in love, get married, have children, and grow in love day by day. I definitely want to get married someday. I think of marriage as a friendship you’ll never lose and a chosen partnership for life. You choose a person and that person chooses you. Comedian Ray Romano described his own marriage this way: “You wake up—she’s there. You come back from work—she’s there. You fall asleep—she’s there. You eat dinner—she’s there. You know? I mean, I know that sounds like a bad thing. But it’s not” (Raymond, episode 9).

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Love can also take a much simpler form than a lifelong partnership with a husband or wife. Love can be found in a single act taken by one person on behalf of another. For an example, the week or so surrounding finals last semester was a rough time for me. During my Sunday morning church service that week, I was all but exhausted mentally and physically. An older married couple who are members of my church came to see me after the service to tell me that I’d been on their minds lately and ask if there was any way they could pray with me. Their coming to me and asking to pray communicated so much love to me in that moment; it was exactly what I needed, and it reminded me of God’s everlasting love for me.

Sometimes love is in the thought that one person expends for another. It really can be the thought that counts when it comes to love. In recent years, my siblings and I have begun exchanging little Christmas gifts. It’s my idea because I like buying ridiculous things for my brother and sister. My sister outdid me last year, though, when it came to thoughtfulness. She told me a week before Christmas that she’d picked out my gift and that it was not what I’d asked for. Naturally, I was worried and even a little annoyed. After all, my sister likes to think things through her own convoluted mental processes. She has even told me on several occasions that she cannot predict what I’ll say, do, or want in any given circumstance. On Christmas Day, she presented me with a radio adaptor that would let me play music from my phone through my car’s radio. She remembered that I didn’t have an auxiliary plug in my car and that my grandmother had gotten a Wow Hits 2007 CD stuck in the player years before she gave it to me. She took the time to think about what I really wanted and gave me a stellar gift I still use to this day. When I opened it and realized what she’d done, I felt remembered, considered, and loved.

Love is multi-faceted, easily felt, and always better in excess than in lack. Valentine’s Day gives me an extra reason to celebrate the love of all the wonderful people around me. Love, in all its forms and with all its facets, is a trait to be cherished. It is more than silly love songs; it is the very core of Jesus Himself.

Written by Becca

McCartney, Paul. “Silly Love Songs.” Wings at the Speed of Sound, Capitol, 1976. “The Lone Barone.”

Everybody Loves Raymond, created by Philip Rosenthal, performance by Ray Romano, season 3, episode 9, 1998.

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Valentine’s Day For the Rest of Us

Valentine’s Day is a day of love. It’s easy to think about a day dedicated to the celebration of love and mostly focus on the love we have for our significant others (or lack thereof). On the other hand, the love we have for every wonderful person we know, not to mention the love we have for God, is not to be ignored. With that said, Valentine’s Day is a great time to refocus attention on relational priorities and show love to the people in our lives.

As Christians, we are called to love God first and foremost (Luke 10:25-28). As each year of our lives stretches on, we experience amazing, spectacular, awesome days that make us want to literally jump for joy; we also experience terrible, horrifically awful days that make us want to crawl into a deep, dark hole and wait for the sun to show itself again. God made us to have emotions, and it’s truly amazing that we get to experience a whole range of them, but the truth is that it’s our responsibility to train our hearts to have the joy and peace of the Lord even in the midst of emotional storms (Proverbs 7:1-3; Nehemiah 8:9; Psalm 28:6-7; Philippians 4:10-13). It’s important that we remember this and continue to worship and show our love for God, especially when our lives get rough. We can do this by setting aside time to pray, worship, or dig deep into His word. He knows His children, so it’s not like He’ll forget we love Him if we go a day without reading the Bible, but this quiet time is important for us to have so that we can remind our hearts of His glorious goodness through the renewing of our minds (Romans 12:3).

The second commandment God gives to His children is to love others (Luke 10:28). We’re meant to love our friends, our enemies, ourselves, and even strangers. That’s a pretty broad group of people, but the ways we can love them are generally the same: we can reach out to them, in big ways or small, and steadily build relationships with them. Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to show our love to the people around us. We can spend the day hanging out with friends (especially if none of us happen to be in romantic relationships), make a nice card as a gesture of peace for someone we’re not on good terms with, or even do some volunteer work to help out some perfect strangers. If we do happen to be spending Valentine’s Day with our darling, we could set aside a few minutes to lift up friends and family in prayer.

Of course, Valentine’s Day is most often associated with the idea of spending quality time with our significant others. On this fourteenth of February if we don’t find ourselves dating or married to anyone, let’s not worry. Any favor we have with anyone comes from God, and He has led the right people to us. If we do have a very special someone, however, that’s great! A little (or even a lot) of romance never hurt anyone. Dedicating a special date to our better halves can be a spectacular way to show them some love. When part of a couple, the important thing to remember about Valentine’s Day is that displays of love are definitely not supposed to be limited to this one day. Though it’s fantastic to use Valentine’s Day to remind our dearests how great we think they are, let’s keep in mind that we can show our love for them all year. Our actions speak louder than our words, so let’s be sure that the love in our hearts rings clearly through everything we do (1 John 3:18).

Valentine’s Day is a super great time to remember the love we have for others and to practice acting it out. Whether we have a Valentine or not, a day especially intended to show all the awesome people around us that we love them is a pretty amazing excuse for a holiday. Happy Valentine’s Day!

Written by: Becca

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